Nurturing Persistence and Choice in Children

Meagan Ledendecker • November 10, 2025
Image of a preschool aged child sitting at a small table with a wooden frame covered in fabric with large buttons

“If persistence be the true foundation of the will, we nevertheless recognize decision as the act of the will par excellence.” 

— Dr. Maria Montessori, Spontaneous Activity in Education


In this quote, Dr. Montessori reminds us that persistence is at the heart of character development. Today, we might call this steadiness and perseverance “grit.” 


When children work through obstacles and remain committed to their chosen activity, they are not only building skills. They are forming the very foundation of their will.


Take this typical scene from a Montessori classroom: a four-year-old works with decimal system materials, building four-digit numbers using beads and cards, staying with the activity for an extended period of time, repeating it again and again with intensity and focus. The child gives as much attention to the careful set-up and clean-up as to the work itself. 


It’s easy to imagine this young person years later as a hard-working, thoughtful, responsible individual. The four-year-old’s persistence in that moment shapes the future self, strengthening the ability to act with purpose in life.


Decision: The Act of the Will


If persistence is the foundation of the will, decision is the act of the will. And every decision arises from choice. For children, the ability to make choices is essential. Just as movement cannot develop when children are kept immobile, the will cannot develop if children are never given the chance to choose.


Our entire life is a continual exercise of decisions. This ability to choose builds independence. When children cannot make their own decisions (or when they fear making the wrong one), they become dependent on others.


This is why choice is such an important part of the Montessori environment. We strengthen children’s will by continually offering opportunities to decide. The choices don’t have to be large ones. They can be woven gently into the day:


  • Would you like to carry the tray or the mat?
  • You may choose any table.
  • Would you like to put the box or the pencil away first?


Each small decision helps strengthen the will.


Independence Through Choice


Every time children make a decision, they are practicing independence. They are learning to trust themselves instead of depending on the suggestions of others. They decide when to begin and when to finish, when to move and when to pause, when to be quiet and when to speak.


One of our jobs as adults is to ensure that we are giving children opportunities to practice using their will. Just as we don’t keep children motionless when they are learning how to crawl, cruise, walk, or run, we don’t want to impede children’s will when they are learning how to make choices and act upon their environment. 


“And yet we do something of the same kind when, in order to educate the child’s ‘will,’ we first of all attempt to annihilate it, or, as we say, ‘break' it, and thus hamper the development of every factor of the will, substituting ourselves for the child in everything.” 

— Dr. Maria Montessori, Spontaneous Activity in Education


This is a cautionary reminder for us as adults, as we can all too easily impose our will upon our children. This can happen in overt, overly controlling ways, or it can happen more subtly when adults do things for children rather than allowing them to practice making choices and experiencing consequences.


As Montessori parents and guides, our role is to protect this space for choice. By doing so, we are supporting children’s independence in the present, while also helping them build the persistence, decision-making, and strength of will that will guide them for life. 


Curious to see how this works in a classroom? Schedule a tour here in Lenox, MA!


Preschool aged child sitting on the floor with a puzzle map of Australia
By Meagan Ledendecker June 1, 2026
Montessori geography materials help children explore the world through hands-on learning, imagination, and real-world discovery.
Two preschool aged children sitting at the top of a slide, smiling and holding hands
By Meagan Ledendecker May 28, 2026
Discover how Montessori nurtures intrinsic motivation by replacing rewards and punishment with curiosity, confidence, and self-discipline.
Image of a preschool aged girl standing in front of an ironing board with a spray bottle and fabric
By Meagan Ledendecker May 25, 2026
When children struggle, Montessori asks: what's in the way? Explore how the prepared environment helps children find their way back to themselves.
By Meagan Ledendecker May 18, 2026
If you've spent any time in a Montessori early childhood classroom, you've likely noticed the sandpaper letters on the shelf: elegant, tactile, traced by small fingers again and again. And if you've looked closely, you may have noticed something that surprises many families. Those letters are in cursive. In a world where most children learn to print first, Montessori's cursive-first approach raises questions. Why cursive? Why so early? The answers reach back to Dr. Maria Montessori's own careful observations of children, as well as forward to what modern neuroscience is now confirming about the developing brain. What Dr. Montessori Actually Observed Dr. Montessori was a meticulous observer of children, and her thinking about writing developed through years of direct experimentation. One of her core observations was that children naturally gravitate toward curved, flowing lines rather than the rigid, straight strokes that were (and often still are) the starting point for teaching print. She noticed this pattern across multiple contexts. When children who were learning to write began with rows of straight strokes, their attention would gradually drift, and the straight lines would slowly transform into curves, as if the child's hand were following its own natural inclination. And when children drew spontaneously by tracing figures in sand with a fallen twig, or scribbling freely on paper, they rarely produced short, straight lines. Instead, they made long, flowing, interlaced curves. Dr. Montessori paid attention. Rather than something random, she recognized the hand's natural motion expressing itself. Critical of standard teaching approaches that began with isolated geometric strokes, or regimented mark-making, Dr. Montessori saw that cursive script, with its connected, flowing letters, aligned far more naturally with the motions children were already making. It worked with the child's hand, rather than against it. The Neurological Case for Cursive Thanks to her keen observations, Dr. Montessori intuited benefits that research is now beginning to confirm. Modern brain science provides a compelling case for the value of cursive writing. This is especially powerful in early childhood, when the brain is forming the connections that will support reading, fine motor coordination, and cognitive development for years to come. Dr. William R. Klemm, writing in Psychology Today, summarized findings showing that learning cursive trains the brain to develop what researchers call “functional specialization,” or the capacity for optimal efficiency. Brain imaging studies show how multiple areas of the brain are activated simultaneously during cursive writing in a way that doesn't happen with typing or print. The integration of sensation, movement control, and thinking that cursive requires appears to support broader cognitive development in genuinely significant ways. Klemm also suggested that learning cursive trains the brain for more effective visual scanning, with potential benefits for reading speed and hand-eye coordination. In other words, the child who traces cursive sandpaper letters with their fingertips is developing neural pathways that support a wide range of future learning. Clarity, Beauty, and the Practical Benefits Beyond the neurological research, there are practical reasons that Montessori educators have observed over generations of practice. Cursive provides a better visual distinction between letters that are easily confused in print. Think about the pairs that trip up so many young learners: b and d, p and q. In cursive, these letters look different from one another, which reduces the visual confusion that causes so many children to struggle in the early stages of reading and writing. And then there is the matter of beauty, something Dr. Montessori took seriously in everything she prepared for children. She wrote that, in teaching writing, we should pay close attention to "the beauty of form" and "the flowing quality of the letters." Cursive handwriting, when developed well, is genuinely lovely. It is a form of penmanship that connects children to a long tradition of human expression through the written word. The Montessori approach treats handwriting as a craft worth caring about. What This Looks Like in the Classroom In a Montessori early childhood environment, the path to writing begins long before a child picks up a pencil. Practical life activities like pouring, spooning, buttoning, and lacing quietly help children develop the fine motor control and hand-eye coordination that writing requires. The sensorial materials train children’s pincer grip and refine the precision of small muscle movements. And the metal insets give children practice with the flowing, curved lines that build cursive letters. Then children begin using the sandpaper letters. While verbalizing the phonetic sound, children trace the letter with two fingers. Children feel the letter, produce its sound, and see its form. This multi-sensory experience engages multiple brain areas simultaneously and creates rich, layered associations that support both writing and reading development. By the time children are ready to write independently, they have been preparing their hand and mind for months, often without even realizing it. A Method Ahead of Its Time Dr. Montessori consistently arrived at insights that research has later confirmed. Her reasons for emphasizing cursive were rooted in direct observation of children. She watched children’s hands and their natural movements. She also looked to see what helped them and what created unnecessary struggle. Dr. Montessori wasn't following a trend or a theory. She was following the child. Decades later, brain imaging technology and developmental research are catching up to what Dr. Montessori saw. Flowing lines of cursive script, the sandpaper letters on the shelf, the careful preparation of the hand before children ever pick up the pencil. This is a deep and practical understanding of how children's minds and bodies actually work. For families curious about why Montessori makes this choice, the short answer is this: because children's hands already know how to make these movements. Montessori simply listens to what the hand is already telling us and builds from there. Visit our school in Lenox, MA and see the sandpaper letters and writing materials in action. We'd love to show you how the path to writing unfolds in Montessori.
Group of elementary students sitting cross legged on the floor looking at maps and timelines
By Meagan Ledendecker May 11, 2026
See how Montessori timelines make abstract time tangible for children, building historical thinking, imagination, and inner order through hands-on work.
Group of toddlers exploring various materials in a grassy, sunny outdoor space
By Meagan Ledendecker May 4, 2026
Discover how Montessori education nurtures children's deepest human needs — from exploration and meaningful work to belonging and spiritual growth.
Show More