Real Goals, True Treasures: Why Montessori Abolished Rewards and Punishments

Meagan Ledendecker • May 28, 2026
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Among the many principles of Montessori philosophy, the absence of rewards and punishments is one of the more difficult concepts to embody fully. Although many of us understand how punishments can be harmful to children, it can be harder to accept that rewards, and especially praise, can be equally detrimental!


Yet this is one of the most well-supported and consequential ideas in all of Montessori education. Understanding why requires a fundamental shift in how we think about motivation, mistakes, and what learning is actually for.


Children Are Already Motivated


At the heart of all of this is the simple fact that we don’t need to incentivize children to learn. As Alfie Kohn states clearly in Punished by Rewards, "From the beginning they are hungry to make sense of their world." Kohn also emphasizes the importance of the environment in supporting this natural drive: "Given an environment in which they don't feel controlled and in which they are encouraged to think about what they are doing (rather than how well they are doing it), students of any age will generally exhibit an abundance of motivation and a healthy appetite for challenge."


Even when well-intentioned, what rewards and punishments do is gradually replace children’s inner drive with an outer one. When children learn to work for stickers, grades, or praise, they begin to ask a different question. Instead of “what do I want to understand?” they start asking “what will get me the reward?” The learning process, including genuine curiosity, risk-taking, and joy of discovery, becomes dulled.


Dr. Montessori arrived at this understanding through direct observation. She wrote in The Discovery of the Child that she had once believed children needed external encouragement to foster a spirit of work: "I was astonished when I learned that a child who is permitted to educate himself really gives up these lower instincts." Once she removed prizes and punishments, something more genuine and more durable took their place.


As Dr. Montessori explains in The Absorbent Mind, "The child who freely finds his work shows that to him they are completely unimportant." Making the mental shift from needing to control children’s learning to allowing it to unfold isn't necessarily automatic or easy. Even Dr. Montessori had her own learning curve in this regard. But the evidence, both from over a century of Montessori practice and from current research, is clear.


Mistakes Are Not the Enemy


The second reason Montessori abolished external judgment stems from a profound respect for the role of mistakes in learning.


From the very beginning of life, humans learn through error. As Dr. Montessori writes in The Absorbent Mind, "Many errors correct themselves as we go through life. The tiny child starts toddling uncertainly on his feet, wobbles and falls, but ends by walking easily. He corrects his errors by growth and experience." The feedback is built into the experience, which is precisely why so many Montessori materials are designed to be self-correcting, allowing children to discover their own errors through the work itself rather than through adult judgment.


When children are afraid of making mistakes, the consequences are significant. As Kohn explains, "Mistakes offer information about how a student thinks. Correcting them quickly and efficiently doesn't do much to facilitate learning. More importantly, students who are afraid of making mistakes are unlikely to ask for help when they need it, unlikely to feel safe enough to take intellectual risks, and unlikely to be intrinsically motivated."


Children in Montessori classrooms often develop a genuinely friendly relationship with error. They can take ownership of their mistakes rather than have an authority figure mark work as right or wrong. They puzzle over what went wrong in their calculations, return to work they didn't get right the first time, and feel good about the process of figuring things out.


Dr. Montessori was clear about why this matters: "It is well to cultivate a friendly feeling towards error, to treat it as a companion inseparable from our lives, as something having a purpose, which it truly has." One of the benefits of embracing mistakes is accepting ourselves as less than perfect. This acceptance is foundational to a healthy Montessori learning community.


The Hidden Harm of Praise


If punishment feels obviously problematic, praise feels obviously helpful. So it is worth pausing to consider why Dr. Montessori included praise alongside punishment in what she asked adults to step back from.


The issue is not warmth or encouragement. Those remain essential. The issue is evaluative praise, telling a child their work is good, smart, or impressive. Evaluative (and even positive) praise can lead children to compare themselves to others, fostering negative competition in the quest to be better than someone else. When we praise children for being the best or the most advanced, others are implicitly positioned as less so. This plants the seed of a competitive environment where another child's success feels like a threat rather than an inspiration.


In Montessori classrooms, something different tends to emerge. As Dr. Montessori observed in The Absorbent Mind, "Not only are these children free from envy, but anything well done arouses their enthusiastic praise." Children celebrate each other's achievements. They become inspired rather than threatened by someone mastering a challenge. This is the natural outcome of an environment where children are not ranked against each other, and where each child's learning process belongs entirely to them.


What Develops Instead


One of the deepest concerns parents have about removing rewards and punishments is this: without external controls, won't everything fall apart?


The Montessori answer, backed by over a century of practice and observation, is that the opposite happens. One of the reasons adults may struggle with removing rewards and punishments is what can feel like a terrifying loss of control. However, when children aren't manipulated by external controls, they have the opportunity to develop something far more powerful and durable: internal discipline.


Dr. Montessori wrote in The Discovery of the Child, "This inner liberation is accompanied by a new sense of dignity. From now on a child becomes interested in his own conquests and remains indifferent to the many small external temptations which would formerly have been so irresistible to his lower feelings."


And in The Absorbent Mind, she describes what this internal confidence produces: "The child, in fact, once he feels sure of himself, will no longer seek the approval of authority after every step. He will go on piling up finished work of which the others know nothing, obeying merely the need to produce and perfect the fruits of his industry. What interests him is finishing his work, not to have it admired, nor to treasure it up as his own property."


The learning process itself — the curiosity, the struggle, the discovery, the growth — becomes the real goal, the true treasure. And it turns out that this reward is the one that lasts.


What This Means for Families


Understanding the Montessori approach to rewards and punishments often changes not just how we think about school, but how we approach things at home. When our children accomplish something, what kind of response nurtures their intrinsic motivation rather than replacing it? When our children make a mistake, how can our response preserve their curiosity and confidence rather than shutting it down?


These are not easy questions, and there are no perfect answers. However, the Montessori framework offers a way to trust our children, respect the process, and believe that when we give children the conditions to develop from the inside out, what emerges is something remarkable.


We'd love to talk more about how Montessori helps children develop the love of learning and how they carry that love with them for life. Come visit us in Lenox, MA and see what motivation looks like when it comes from within!


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